A Mind of My Own

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Chinese New Year is coming. So are the frequently asked questions by the relatives who are very concerned about my marital status. Since they don’t see me every time throughout the year (that is in case they get sick from looking at me and won’t give me the ang bao so generously), they will ask me “So, when are you getting married?”

A colleague of mine would answer this way, every year, “Yesterday.” That was that. Good, I should start using from now until I get married. The next question to field is “When are you going to have a baby?” Maybe I should use the same answer, no?

As mentioned before, it’s expensive to get married in Singapore especially when most of the elders want you to hold an 8-course dinner. I want to say “SILENCE! I KEEL YOU!” Achmed style. Cool, right? Of course I can’t just tell them that. They will kill me before I have even ended the sentence.

Sometimes I wonder if life is just all about marriage, kids and work. Have we made our lives so utterly routine that the questions are always about marriage, girlfriend, boyfriend, kids, flat, money and many more? I want many things but they aren’t achievable at this stage but I will get there.

Another question they will ask you after your first child, “Second one coming?” Besides money being the problem of feeding the first one plus all the money going to the flat, I seriously wonder where the heck do the parents cough out the money for all those stuff.

What I’m hoping for is that they won’t be asking me about my mundane life and just focus on my kids about their studies and height. Or I should just go adopt one and let them ask the kid.

My question is “How come must hold an 8-course wedding dinner one?“

With Christmas coming, the blogsphere won’t be complete without a Christmas-y meme, would it? I’m here writing the meme because I’m stuck at home with medicine infested blood besides being tagged by Modobs. I was so looking forward to joining the girls at the Christmas gift exchange too!

1. What do you really want for Christmas but you know nobody will get it for you?

Something shiny but then again, that shiny thing would be more suitable for Valentine’s day.

2. What do you not want for Christmas but you know that somebody will get it for you?

The heavy rain on Christmas.

3. When do you open your gifts (Christmas eve or Christmas morning)?

Erm, immediately. Unless it’s during a gift exchange, it’s after everyone has collected theirs.

4. Do you prefer gifts wrapped or in gift bags?

Wrapped. I like to keep the wrapping papers but these days, there is too liberal use of the scotch tape.

5. Did you re-gift anything this year?

No. I do it only if I hate that gift.

6. What’s your favourite Christmas movie?

I have one? Wait! I like Alvin and The Chipmunks


7. What’s your favourite Christmas TV special?

I forgot what’s often broadcast on TV. Oh, wait, I don’t watch TV much these days. I have movie marathons.

8. Do you like egg nog?

I prefer half-boiled eggs. Or eggs that are salty instead of sweet.

9. Real tree or fake tree, which do you prefer?

Fake trees. I don’t have to hurt the environment just to make the season feel Christmas-y.

10. Would you actually use one of those fireplace DVDs if you don’t have a fireplace?

Why would I waste my money on those?

11. Are you sick of Christmas music yet?

Not yet, but I’m sick as in having flu.

12. Are you getting up early to wait in line to do some Boxing Day shopping (Canada’s equivalent to Black Friday)?

Not even when it’s sales. Why waste my energy when there’s always someone waiting to step on my poor toes?

13. When was the last time you sat on Santa’s lap?

No such luck. My parents don’t believe in making us believe in Santa Claus.

Since a tag must be passed, I shall now tag DK, Kriscell, Lucretius, Xinyun, Nicole, Miss Loi and Sentosa Girl.

Oh, Merry Christmas everyone!

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I’ve been asked way too many times and I feel it’s never too good to ask people such a question. My colleagues were talking about marriage during lunch and they touched on “When is your turn?” topic. With lots of red bombs these few months, I’ve been asked this question numerous times. The last time I was asked, the relationship ended. So, if you want me to get married, don’t ask me.

Call me pandang or superstitious but if you do care about your friends, don’t ask them such a question if you expect the couples to get married. Let the river flow and your friends will be grateful for being thoughtful and feel happier attending the events.